Domestic violence doesn't start out violent!
First you are wooed in with the appearance of love, gifts, and compliments.
Then come the tension building phase, blame shifting, gaslighting, projection and manipulation.
If you try to have a voice, try to defend yourself, try to push away, then comes the attack phase.
Early on in this cycle, the attack phase may just be verbal, it may just be psychological cruelty.
After the attack phase comes phase one again. He sets the trap again. He manipulates her into trusting again, making promises, saying what she so desperately yearns to hear. Then, Tension building then attack. It's a never ending cycle.
The first cycle may happen over months, but as time fies by the cycle speeds up. Until an entire cycle happens within an hour.
As the cycle speeds up so does the intensity of the tension and attack phases.
I used to believe physical violence was just being hit. I convinced myself that if I wasn't hit then I wasn't abused. But the truth is Domestic violence has many faces.
In my experience, domestic also includes things like, being chased, doors being beaten down, dragged, having things thrown at me, being smothered suffocated, being held hostage, restrained, and threatened, blows to the wall beside my face, having my head smashed into a corner. Until it escalated to sexual violence. ,
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